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Imagine having braces during the apocalypse. no one can take your braces off. And you just have to accept that you’ll have braces forever.
Actually, I’ve written a post about it (find it in the sidebar) because I struggle with the same problem.
First, you need to determine what exactly about showering bothers you. Body image? Proximity to razors? Just don’t care? It could be anything, and the steps you take depend on your answer.
I’m gonna say that unless you’re gross, don’t shower. No need to put yourself through extra stress.
Once you do really feel the need to shower, try solving whatever problem you have with it. Also, try showering in the afternoon or evening so it’s not the first thing you do in the morning.
One thing to note is that society’s push to shower frequently is a relatively recent phenomenon and a luxury; as long as you’re not sick or stinky, you shouldn’t really need to bathe quite so often. Your body chemistry ought to take care of itself. Back in the day bathing was a once-a-week thing done over a shallow communal washbasin, and rarely fully submerged. Contrary to common belief (presumably pushed by modern detergent companies), people back then didn’t actually smell bad, either.
I’m a fan of afternoon ablutions. Showers are hard for me in the morning, but I love taking outdoor showers in the summer and warm showers before bed. If i am unwell and I have to go out I will wash my hair in the sink and do a ”whore’s bath” with warm soapy water and a clean washcloth over the sink basin. Doing a clay facial mask is one of my self-care tools, so sometimes I do that, which is fun and makes me feel pampered. And if I can’t manage any of that stuff I powder my hair with cornstarch to soak up the dirt & oil and make it fluffy, wash my face, and put on moisturizer.
I agree with this completely.
I personally don’t shower for three or four days at a time, and nobody knows the difference. Of course there are many reasons to shower every day, but they certainly don’t apply to everyone.
My skin really objects to daily soap bathing, so I don’t necessarily shower every day. I don’t wash my hair but once a week, and sometimes, all I do is rinse off in the shower. But yeah, if you’re worried about sweat or anything on your body but don’t want to shower, I’d say just wipe yourself down with a warm, wet washcloth and be done with it.
But for a really luxe feeling after a shower, while you’re still wet in the shower, rub some oil (olive, coconut, sweet almond, even avocado - anything good and moisturizing) all over your skin in a really thin layer, rinse and rub down with a washcloth, and then pat dry. I’d do this before bed so you can go without actual clothes for a bit and let the oil sink in.
Yeah, I have trouble showering because of a skin sensitivity condition, so often I go a while without it. I try to make sure I wash my hair often enough by itself (it works best if you have one of those shower heads that detaches from the wall and has a hose, so you can kneel over the edge of the bathtub and wash it pretty quickly; even when mine was waist-length, it took only 15 minutes to wash, condition, and blow dry), but sometimes if I just can’t deal with even that much sensation, I just wear a hat. As long as I wear clean clothes every day, I’m usually good for nearly a week.
When I do shower, I try to make it as comfortable as possible by setting the pressure carefully, making sure the temperature is ideal, and playing music really loudly so I have something to concentrate on. (Music is great for timing how long I’ve been in there, too.)
As far as I know, only my husband and other family are aware, because as long as I wear deodorant on hot days and always hose off after strenuous activity (also right before if it’s of the frisky sort coughcough), I smell fine.
All of that said, if you’re trying to get yourself to shower, schedule it for a specific time that isn’t right before something impotent like work or school. It’s easier when you don’t have to worry about how long it’ll take, and even more so if you can do something relaxing after, like watch a movie in your pajamas. Although I don’t advocate going to bed with wet hair unless you want to have to wet it down again in the morning to avoid looking like a troll doll. Unless you have really great hair that’s actually manageable, or in other words not my hair.
I’m a bath princess so now that my illnesses have made it hard to bathe every day I’m like auuuugh.
But little things can help, like people mentioned above. Facial cleansing wipes and lotion wipes come in handy. I often use apple cider vinegar on a cotton pad to rub under my arms and any other places that might accumulate dirty and bacteria.Helps sooo much!
One thing to just help me feel freshened up is to get one of those mist bottles, fill with water and add some essential oils to your liking. I added soft warming things like ylang ylang and clove, but also added bergamot and peppermint to lift my spirits. I spray it on myself randomly throughout the day and not only does it feel nice (especially during the summer), but the smell is so nice and comforting.
I only shower if I stink, or if my scalp starts to get itchy, usually a three day max. I might rinse off when it’s hot and sweaty weather, because it feels really good, especially living in the desert.
But yeah, I usually just go by itchiness.
I believe in something I call “unrequited like.” It’s a less profound version of unrequited love. I think this happens to all genders and it can certainly be disappointing.
I’ve been on the planet a bit longer than a lot of my followers and maybe I can pass along a few things I’ve learned.
First, if someone has no interest in you. Move on. It will be hard. It might even suck for a while. But trying to win the affection of someone who doesn’t feel that way about you is a big waste of time. You are just going to cause yourself more pain.
Second, being someone’s friend is not a consolation prize. Friendship is one of the most precious things on earth and should not be discounted into this absurd notion of the “friendzone.”
If you believe in the friendzone you aren’t the “nice guy” you think you are. Women are not objects to be won, and if they reject you, you should respect that. You cannot blame someone for not having feelings for you. It’s like telling someone who doesn’t like brussels sprouts to just start liking them. You cannot magically change their taste buds by saying the right words.
And lastly, if they offer you friendship, do not accept it if you are just going to be resentful. Either truly be their friend and perform your friend duties with all your heart, or move along.
In my opinion, if you think you got friendzone’d, you are no friend.